Let’s be honest: most budgeting advice is written by people who have never impulsively DoorDashed $42 worth of Chick-fil-A because dinner “emotionally wasn’t happening tonight,” never panic-bought something on Amazon at 10:47 PM, and definitely never had kids scream “I NEED THIS!” at Target.
And then there’s the advice from financial celebrities yelling,
“JUST STOP SPENDING MONEY!”
Thanks Dave, truly groundbreaking. While we’re at it, I’ll also stop breathing, stop aging, and stop my kids from existing.
Down here in Louisiana, life isn’t “just stop spending.”
It’s crawfish boils, hurricanes, insurance that costs more than a small country’s GDP, and someone always selling raffle tickets for something.
Real people need real budgeting help.
Not shame.
Not yelling.
Not a guilt sermon from someone who hasn’t had a $7 travel ball concession stand emergency in 20 years.
Just something that works.
Why Most Budgets Crash and Burn
People don’t fail at budgeting because they’re dumb.
They fail because their budget looks like:
✨ Perfect fairy tale numbers
✨ Zero room for life
✨ Unrealistic expectations
💥 Explodes before the first paycheck clears
Then they go:
“Well that didn’t work. Guess I’ll just wing it.”
Budgeting shouldn’t feel like punishment.
It should feel like control… with your sanity intact.
Rule #1 — Your Budget Should Be Boring… and Built for Chaos
A budget is not a prison.
It’s not a diet.
It’s not a financial time-out.
It’s just a plan.
And plans need room for:
- surprise school fees
- birthday parties that materialize out of thin air
- nights when cooking feels illegal
- that one friend who always texts: “Let’s do dinner!”
Instead of designing a “perfect” budget Dave Ramsey would frame and hang on his wall, build a realistic one you’ll actually follow.
Rule #2 — Fix the Big 3 Before You Nitpick Lattes
Please stop stressing over $4 coffees while your house and car payments are tag-teaming your wallet like WWE wrestlers.
Start here:
1️⃣ Housing
Mortgage or rent.
Ideally under 30–35% of take-home pay.
If your payment feels like an abusive roommate you can’t evict… that’s why life feels tight.
2️⃣ Transportation
Cars are sneaky little money vampires.
Payments.
Insurance.
Gas.
Repairs. Every Louisiana pothole deciding to ruin your alignment.
If your car note feels like a second mortgage, congratulations — you bought a very pretty financial burden with wheels.
3️⃣ Food
The silent assassin of budgets.
Groceries + eating out + “Oops, we didn’t cook again.”
If you eat out a lot, do something wild:
Tell the truth and budget for it.
You’re not magically transforming into a gourmet chef next month.
Rule #3 — Use Buckets, Not 97 Tiny Categories
If your budget requires color coding, pivot tables, six sub-tabs, and a prayer… you’re not going to use it.
Normal people do better with simple buckets:
✔️ Needs
✔️ Wants
✔️ Future
That’s it. You are not the Department of Defense Finance Division.
If you want training wheels:
- 50–60% Needs
- 20–30% Wants
- 10–20% Future
Not perfect.
Not robotic.
But sustainable.
Rule #4 — Automate Because Willpower is a Myth
Let’s be honest: you are not going to remember to save every month.
Not because you’re irresponsible.
Because you’re busy and human.
Automate:
- savings
- retirement
- bills
Good decisions should happen automatically — not only after a motivational speech or a Ramsey podcast rant.
Rule #5 — If Your Budget Has No Fun, It Will Die
Humans do not thrive under misery budgets.
If your plan is:
❌ No fun
❌ No eating out
❌ No hobbies
❌ No joy
You will eventually launch your budget into orbit.
Build in:
- date nights
- hobbies
- vacations
- the occasional “I deserve this” purchase
Money is meant to be managed… not feared.
Rule #6 — Stop Chasing Perfection
Some months are ugly.
Some are expensive.
Some are just chaos.
That’s life.
The win is not perfection.
The win is progress.
Ask:
➡️ Do I know where my money went?
➡️ Did I spend intentionally?
➡️ Am I improving compared to last month?
If yes? You’re winning.
A Simple, Non-Stressful Budget You Can Actually Use
Copy it. Adjust it. Live your life.
🏠 Needs (55%)
Housing
Utilities
Groceries
Insurance
Car expenses
Debt payments
🎉 Wants (25%)
Eating out
Subscriptions
Amazon adventures
Entertainment
Kid chaos fund
🚀 Future (20%)
Emergency fund
Retirement
Investing
Extra debt payoff
Boom. Done. No yelling. No guilt. No financial cult energy required.
Final Thought
You don’t need to be perfect.
You don’t need to be a spreadsheet robot. Even though I think it’s fun, but I am of a select few.
You don’t need to swear off joy to be “good with money.”
You just need a plan that works in real life.
You’re not behind.
You’re just starting now.
And that’s exactly where progress begins.
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